Emotional Dumping vs Healthy Venting

Emotional dumping and healthy venting are two different ways of expressing emotions and seeking support. While healthy venting can be constructive and beneficial for both the person venting and their listener, emotional dumping tends to be overwhelming and one-sided. Let me share a story to illustrate the differences between the two. Once upon a time, […]

The Neglected Art of Reparenting Yourself

IF YOU ARE LIKE EVERY OTHER CHILD, AND I BET YOU ARE, YOU WERE BORN AT A VERY YOUNG AGE… Little beautiful hands and feet, tiny eyes and a round face that radiated pure love to any observer. Yet with such cuteness, children also come with little coping skills to deal with the real issues[…..]

Intouch with your emotional world

From the previous article on Psychic Numbness, we referenced the words of psychiatrist F. J. Braceland, that sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep. Further, knowing that silencing our emotions poisons the soul, it is of paramount importance to get on the path to awakening our long forgotten sense expressing our[…..]

Psychic NUMBNESS …the tragedy of silenced emotions

Once upon my high school days, our no-nonsense principal noticed two boys get into the same toilet, and gave them enough time to settle into whatever mischief they were up to. Checking his watch, he tiptoed and knocked. “I know two of you are in there, you better come out before I come in” They[…..]

A brief anatomy of ANXIETY and PANIC ATTACKS

Life is UNCERTAIN. And, the 21st century, uncertainty seems to be its key word. And while I could go about a scholarly discourse about climate change, wars and the uncertainty of the next pandemic, let’s talk about uncertainty a little closer home. The uncertainty about the outcome of an exam, about getting a job, about[…..]

Keeping Your Poise Under Pressure

You may be familiar with the term poised under pressure. PRESSURE. Imagine a student who misreads the timetable and misses a crucial exam, or the investor who places all they have on a business idea which tanks before it can take-off. At the work-place, it could be deadlines, confrontations, unmet targets that could cost a[…..]

Not So Funny …time for a breather?

Let’s call her Leila Amenambo a.k.a Madam Amena. A high-ranking human resource officer for an auditing firm. Medals. Awards. Accolades. All making her want more. Every day, she drops and picks her two kids at the junior section of Amana Group of Schools, an exercise she enjoys as a mother. Did I mention she is[…..]

The Fully Functioning Person

To be fully functioning is not a place we arrive at, it is the way we live everyday Carl Rogers, a leading Psychologist believed that to be fully functioning is not a place we arrive at, but rather, the process of always becoming and changing. Such a process entails being in touch with the here[…..]

Stop SHOULDING yourself

Imagine this scenario for a moment… You are walking quietly down Kanyamgwala Street to pick a bus to Kathonzweni, then from the blues this son of soil shows up and yells at you that you should lose some weight, or you should be a better mother, you should be this, you should be that. Right[…..]